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To the boys - Red flags for women

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thehalo0

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Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
 
Red flags are going to vary per person and their boundaries.

I have plenty of guy friends who are straight. Any man who wants to be in my life romantically has to accept that, just like I have to accept if he has straight female friends. My husband and I trust each other enough that we have zero concerns about spending time with friends. Hell, our mutual best friend has a crush on my husband and I still don't care if they hang out or talk.

Who are you to decide whats toxic in ones friendship? Everyone has different boundaries and as long as nobody is controlling one another, healthy relationships can form.
Where insecurities are involved, if you want to be with someone, wouldn't you want to ease their insecurities? I mean, it's a huge red flag to not want to support someone you want to be involved with.

Why not bother with a woman who takes care of herself and takes pride in her appearance and has the confidence to put herself on display? She's doing it for herself, nobody else. Confidence is freaking sexy.

If she cries a lot, maybe there's some issues that need to be addressed. Crying doesn't always mean manipulation - it can also mean fear. Fear comes from trauma.
It could be as simple as showing her that you're not a threat to her and want to help her and see her succeed.

If you get into a relationship, communicate the direction you want it to go. Be clear, don't beat around the bush. If your life goals don't line up, theres a sign of incompatibility.
It's normal to have high expectations of your relationship, unless you're a player.

What defines a good looking guy? Everyone has different types they're into. In addition, a common problem people have with their looks is that they aren't their own type. I'm not my type, but I am my husbands type. And if you're serious about a relationship, show it. And that applies to everyone.

Gifts should not be given conditionally. If you're only giving gifts to get something in return, you're not really giving a gift, you're giving a loan.

You shouldn't give anyone energy that they wont reciprocate. Doesn't matter who it is or what they are to you.

Everyone should be working hard for their own money - if you cannot comfortably support yourself outside of the relationship, if something goes wrong, you'll still be stuck relying on that person and there will be minimal chances of a safe escape.

Be and gentleman and dont be a fuckboy are pretty sound pieces of advice though.

You're wrong about being masculine though. Its perfectly acceptable to show emotion and signs of vulnerability.
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
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Also drug dealer friends
 
Sloppyfart said:
Also drug dealer friends
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thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
Wow - complicated - kinda glad I’m gay tbh 😂
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
I take it you've been hurt in the past x
 
Holy said:
Red flags are going to vary per person and their boundaries.

I have plenty of guy friends who are straight. Any man who wants to be in my life romantically has to accept that, just like I have to accept if he has straight female friends. My husband and I trust each other enough that we have zero concerns about spending time with friends. Hell, our mutual best friend has a crush on my husband and I still don't care if they hang out or talk.

Who are you to decide whats toxic in ones friendship? Everyone has different boundaries and as long as nobody is controlling one another, healthy relationships can form.
Where insecurities are involved, if you want to be with someone, wouldn't you want to ease their insecurities? I mean, it's a huge red flag to not want to support someone you want to be involved with.

Why not bother with a woman who takes care of herself and takes pride in her appearance and has the confidence to put herself on display? She's doing it for herself, nobody else. Confidence is freaking sexy.

If she cries a lot, maybe there's some issues that need to be addressed. Crying doesn't always mean manipulation - it can also mean fear. Fear comes from trauma.
It could be as simple as showing her that you're not a threat to her and want to help her and see her succeed.

If you get into a relationship, communicate the direction you want it to go. Be clear, don't beat around the bush. If your life goals don't line up, theres a sign of incompatibility.
It's normal to have high expectations of your relationship, unless you're a player.

What defines a good looking guy? Everyone has different types they're into. In addition, a common problem people have with their looks is that they aren't their own type. I'm not my type, but I am my husbands type. And if you're serious about a relationship, show it. And that applies to everyone.

Gifts should not be given conditionally. If you're only giving gifts to get something in return, you're not really giving a gift, you're giving a loan.

You shouldn't give anyone energy that they wont reciprocate. Doesn't matter who it is or what they are to you.

Everyone should be working hard for their own money - if you cannot comfortably support yourself outside of the relationship, if something goes wrong, you'll still be stuck relying on that person and there will be minimal chances of a safe escape.

Be and gentleman and dont be a fuckboy are pretty sound pieces of advice though.

You're wrong about being masculine though. Its perfectly acceptable to show emotion and signs of vulnerability.
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Nah this mans right tho everytime I show emotions to a female I get played 😭
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
Too funny 😅

I have a question though, how do you suffer in silence?
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
You are stupid.
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
Sounds to me like you are just broken
 
i am too disgusted to respond to this thread any more... the word 'boys' is aptly used and not 'men'. these are not men. they are boys...
 
thehalo0 said:
Red flags for women: If she has guy friends that are straight don't bother with her, If she indulges in social media such as tiktok or Instagram don't bother.

If she has toxic female friends don't bother with her. If she's insecure don't bother with her (these types cheat the most).

If she dresses up well everyday (with make up and skimpy clothing) don't bother with her. If she cries a lot or stirs up drama don't bother with her (emotionally manipulative).

If she says she's lonely just know she's not. If she says she wants a break she's messing with someone else.

Advice for men:
If you get into a relationship don't have high expectations as it probably won't last, women generally won't take you seriously as much as you take them.

If you're not a good looking dude don't bother online dating as women only go for the best looking guys, and if you're a good looking guy don't take them seriously and enjoy.

Don't give any woman gifts unless she's willing to do the same for you.

Don't give a woman energy that she won't give back

Work hard and make that money no one likes a broke boy

Don't chase it will only leave you hurt

If you find a real one don't let go you got a 5% gem

Always be a gentleman

Don't be a fuckboy

Be masculine; suffer in silence
Click to expand...
online dating is dumb tho, no offense but like- shes in another state so like what are u gonna do if she far? u cant hug her or anything lol, but just an advice, brain over heart
 
Sloppyfart said:
Some of the most toxic relationships I have observed have been between gay and lesbian acquientances and alot of it has to do with not being assertive enough to have boundaries.
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Statistically lesbain relationships have the highest rate of domestic violence while the gay males had the lowest rates (not to say it does happen but its far less frequent)and the US CDC has the evidence to back that up.
 
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Veritas said:
Red flags are going to vary per person and their boundaries.

I have plenty of guy friends who are straight. Any man who wants to be in my life romantically has to accept that, just like I have to accept if he has straight female friends. My husband and I trust each other enough that we have zero concerns about spending time with friends. Hell, our mutual best friend has a crush on my husband and I still don't care if they hang out or talk.

Who are you to decide whats toxic in ones friendship? Everyone has different boundaries and as long as nobody is controlling one another, healthy relationships can form.
Where insecurities are involved, if you want to be with someone, wouldn't you want to ease their insecurities? I mean, it's a huge red flag to not want to support someone you want to be involved with.

Why not bother with a woman who takes care of herself and takes pride in her appearance and has the confidence to put herself on display? She's doing it for herself, nobody else. Confidence is freaking sexy.

If she cries a lot, maybe there's some issues that need to be addressed. Crying doesn't always mean manipulation - it can also mean fear. Fear comes from trauma.
It could be as simple as showing her that you're not a threat to her and want to help her and see her succeed.

If you get into a relationship, communicate the direction you want it to go. Be clear, don't beat around the bush. If your life goals don't line up, theres a sign of incompatibility.
It's normal to have high expectations of your relationship, unless you're a player.

What defines a good looking guy? Everyone has different types they're into. In addition, a common problem people have with their looks is that they aren't their own type. I'm not my type, but I am my husbands type. And if you're serious about a relationship, show it. And that applies to everyone.

Gifts should not be given conditionally. If you're only giving gifts to get something in return, you're not really giving a gift, you're giving a loan.

You shouldn't give anyone energy that they wont reciprocate. Doesn't matter who it is or what they are to you.

Everyone should be working hard for their own money - if you cannot comfortably support yourself outside of the relationship, if something goes wrong, you'll still be stuck relying on that person and there will be minimal chances of a safe escape.

Be and gentleman and dont be a fuckboy are pretty sound pieces of advice though.

You're wrong about being masculine though. Its perfectly acceptable to show emotion and signs of vulnerability.
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I agree 100% and think you summed this up better than I ever could.
 
Red flags are everywhere but each individual situation has to be examined and deciphered. There are some show stoppers in a relationship for me and I imagine anyone.
 
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